I was listening to a podcast about finding one's purpose in life and I also read a blog post about tipping that led me to this post. The podcast proposed that the question in my title and wondered about whether responsibility was defined as fulfilling societal obligations or by fulfilling one's desire. By desire I'm not referring to buying a pair of shoes that you really want, but seeking out your bigger purpose. The blog post was centered around the common practice of tipping those that regularly aid us in our daily lives (doormen, hair stylists, postal delivery people, garbage workers, etc.). The poster's argument was framed around doormen in NYC who provide a service and are not paid particularly well for often going beyond the call of duty and helping out residents. The poster argued that in appreciation for their services doormen should be tipped handsomely at year's end and one commenter argued that the doormen should instead get "a real job". This brings me back to my original question what constitutes responsibility and similarly what defines a "real job".
Are we as individuals responsible to the conventions of society? Am I an irresponsible member of society if I'm 45, renting, single and working as a barista? I would likely be considered to not have a "real job". However, what if I was 45, renting, single, a recovering addict, and working as a barista? In that case I think I would be viewed as someone who was doing a good job to turn their life around and was on the track towards positive change. Perhaps the question is how long had I been a barista. Maybe a responsible member of society is one who is paying taxes and law abiding. However, if they do that, but are not being true to themselves while living a life as a corporate drone then are they sacrificing personal responsibility for societal responsibility? Does earning a college degree equate to responsibility? As my coworker asked me this past week, how many engineers can a country really have before it no longer matters? The Bureau of Labor Statistics says that in 2006 there were 1.6 million EMPLOYED engineers in the US. So I would estimate the number would be near 2.5 million if you factor in unemployed, engineers that are not working as engineers, and retired engineers. Maybe the idea of responsibility comes down to my personal definition regardless of what the societal definitions are around me. A very inspirational family in my life with 6 members has at any given point only 2 or 3 people who are in full time employment. I consider them to be the benchmark of responsibility and 'real job holders'. They are all tax paying and law abiding, but they are also holding true to themselves. There is an adage in engineering that you can only get 2 out of 3 options: good, fast, or cheap. In my life right now I think there are also 2 out of 3: societally responsible (law abiding), self responsible, and self indulgent. If I plan to be societally responsible and self responsible then I need to find another career path, which means I cannot indulge in the things that I always want. If I want to be self indulgent and self responsible then I possibly will not be a good citizen. If I'm going to be a good citizen and indulge myself then I will not be true to who I am and that is where I am right now.